Motherhood

I’m going to attempt to keep this post short and simple because my recent posts have been well, way too long!!  So my DF (darling fiancé, we just got engaged) and I are in the mode of when is the right time to have number two?  Kysen just turned two in April and I had made DF a deal back in August that we could “try” to have another one the next following August, which is not so far off now and guess what: I’M NOT READY!  Kysenn has been more demanding than ever and I finally feel like I have just a teensy-weensy part of my life back.  So, I told DF this and he laughed at me and said “We don’t have a life!”  So I replied, “We have a little bit of a life!”  And as I said it I knew that we didn’t.

I guess the problem is I’m just too lazy to have another and I need more time to psyche myself out about it.  Kysen is just at that age that I’m good at, toddler and up!  I wasn’t a good infant mom, you know those mommies who just love the super-concentrated dependence and fragility of the newborn baby—that is not me!  I barely remember the first 3 months of Kysen’s life because I was just trying to survive the long days and nights of trying to keep up with his eating, pooping, peeing, washing, and eating, eating, eating and puking!  I even sucked at baby talk, when I tried it I sounded like a Russian Aflac duck after sucking down a helium balloon!  Needless to say I got made fun of a lot!  I would totally have another if I didn’t have to give birth and he or she came out already a year old!  I’m sure I’m not the only mom who has had these thoughts and I would love for you other moms, similarly situated to remind me of that, pretty please 😉

DF has presented many realistic, important and compelling reasons that we should have another and I know that in the end I will do it for Tyson, but if I have to I’d rather wait till Kysen was five years old at least and DF wants it to be the sooner the better!

What are the age differentials between your children?  What is the optimal age difference in your opinion?  I’d love to get some insight!

xo, Kristen
Kristen Hong of Hello Nutritarian

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  • Anonymous says:

    I don’t know what to tell you sis. I am 38 and have one that is 6 years old and I thought I would have one 2 years after her and now I am really feeling the need to get it done before I hit 40. I never wanted to have a kid at 40 as I don’t have the same tolerance or patience as I used to have. She is putting the pressure on me everyday to have a sibling. I guess I just have to do it. Hubby is waiting for the green light from me too, LOL 🙂

  • Anonymous says:

    I don’t know what to tell you sis. I am 38 and have one that is 6 years old and I thought I would have one 2 years after her and now I am really feeling the need to get it done before I hit 40. I never wanted to have a kid at 40 as I don’t have the same tolerance or patience as I used to have. She is putting the pressure on me everyday to have a sibling. I guess I just have to do it. Hubby is waiting for the green light from me too, LOL 🙂